When the Kid Becomes the Parent


kids become the parents

It’s a strange transition when the kids become the parents. When I was a kid, I remember having to go to my grandpa’s house before and after school so I could help him walk to the bathroom. Our entire family rallied around to help support my grandpa. Aging is a part of life, and as one ages, chances are we’re all going to need some form of help.

Just the simple things in life can be taken for granted, such as going to the grocery store for milk, making a warm meal, paying bills, or making sure you are taking your medications.

As mobility or memory issues develop, most of us will need to rely upon others. Neither kids, nor grandkids, nor the parents want to be in this position.

Yes, it’s the reality of life as we age and move into a new stage. The kids become the parents.

Here’s a snippet from Where You Live Matters:

Mom moved in with us a couple of years ago, after Dad died. She needs more help with everyday tasks now, and has to be reminded to do some of the basics, like take her medicine or brush her hair. Her vision is getting weaker, and the other day I had to tell her she couldn’t drive anymore. That’s when it hit me – I feel like the mom in our relationship. And it made me unbelievably sad.